That was very kind.
Yes, there are several ive seen that mention that, but i did say likeable too. He says after 3 years, i still show hostility towards him and still thinks he doesnt like me. It doesnt make sense though, the withholding provokes it.
I tol him he took that concept of withholding mirroring, validation, empathy, etc. too far. Torture anyone and it will bring out one's worst! Then taking support away when i need it the most? I dont understand how im supposed to react to that-with gratefulness and thanks?
And i am complicated, being possessed by introjects and so forth. Therapists run from that stuff. Even saying 'i have attachment issues' causes many to recoil.
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Originally Posted by Elio
Not in the books I've read, it seems we have read different books... and defiantly not what my t has said. My t could care less about what I looked like if I was happy with what I looked like or how old I am.
I would have to say something about "potential for change", I would agree that there is something about this.. my take is not so much potential but willingness to try, willingness to stay open.
Skies, I am sorry you are having a rough day and I wish I could find the words that would help. In the short period of time that I have been here, I have seen you write some lovely posts providing great amount of support for others here. I really wished I could provide you that support today. I can tell by the other posts, that I am not alone in this wish.
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