Well it wasnt a bad fit until a year ago, so why not before?

If a therapist felt that way "only cloent" it seems to be more about the therapist than the client.

He said that in reaction to his withholding i mentioned earlier. I think it was his mistake due to the issues i came in with, as mentioned before, plus my backgroung. He said the other clients had similar bacmgrounds as me and were ok, but i dont think thats true. He also took that withholding too far. He overestimates my ego strenght, as did the last 2 therapists as well, one who drove me to a breakdown because he, too, overestimated my ego strenght. The strength is just one part of me. It doesnt represent all of me. The strong part of me leads them to think the rest of me is like that. But its not.

Mistakes, not mismatch. If we were a mismatch, why would we still be here 3 years later? Or is that how you think it works?