Luke, It sounds like you are dealing with the effects of emotional abuse from your husband. Holding stuff like your past over your head is not ok. I don't care if you were dealing with things, or are. I think you feel crazy bc your husband is not taking any responsibility for his revolting actions towards you. If you want it to work, try marriage therapy. The fact that he thinks he does nothing wrong is very concerning though. He sounds like he has his own issues that he is not aware of. He would probably hate himself if he admitted it. That's not what taking responsibility for ourselves is about though. It's still not ok either. He is being abusive toward you and it's not ok. I mean, calling you names? That's classic abuse. I don't care if it rings true or not, that's even worse of him.