I would be major time affected by what he did. Having watched the comments from people struggling with this and who have been with the same t for over 3 yrs; I have started to worry that when I get to the 2-3 yr mark, my t might start doing some of the same stuff all in the name of "intervention", "burn out", or "counter transference". I guess it doesn't matter the why, I don't want her to ever pull back anything she's given. I feel I need to grow out of it and away from the needs rather than being shoved out of the nest so to speak. I hope she believes this too.

I mean really, if I ever get to the place where I am as comfortable about between session contacts as she says they are ok to do and then she was to tell me that they are no longer welcomed - I would freak out. It would be devastating and extremely trauma creating.