I was just kidding on the last post of mine. This is like A&E's hoarders, I'm not sure if these people on tv needed the exact solution that was presented on those episodes I'd watched. Humans are different from person to person, the methodology and the area of expertise varies, IMHO, anyone should be acceptable of considering the help that's offered, sure the gesture sounds like it comes from a kind heart.

Openness may reduce the defensiveness on both parties, the helper and the helpee. This may sound a tad rude but how about letting people know by saying 'I can help myself'? Questioning motives are bad moves, it'd be rude to not hear people out, I think it's emotions and reasonings on the OP's action that counts on this discussion.

You wouldn't wanna explain too much, because not everybody computes the informations the same. We can always be more open to people, you can be acceptable of the helps that you may think you don't need, that's another way of returning kindness, so depending on who you're dealing with, every decision you make needs to be respected.

Kind person(s) has other sides too, nobody's who we think they are, sadness or disappointment are another emotions that may arise in these situations, the social rules and the logical way we think we are operating on are not so clear cut, if someone were operator of this kindness mass manufacturing plant, the whole world we live in get quite exhausting and I'd work on changing that if I could.

The world we live in is so much bigger than each of us, (combined??), your understandings and the rigid rules may need reevaluation from all sides, so you won't get stabbed with kindness. I won't judge too quick but you could get upset too quick, too polite, you may possess the human quality that I may not like very much in you. It's not clear to me whether or not if you declined a kind heart or a kind actions/offers someone presented to you.

Social entrapment, we live in our world, in our own minds all the time, if it gets disrupted with inconceivable thoughts, I think people show emotional attitude. Who would've known that the philosophers of physics were annoying Neil deGrasse Tyson? Along with Stephen Hawking, they've been giving poor excuses for not liking this awesome philosophers aka the true pure thinkers and their contribution to the understandings of the world, the movable nature that we call life.

Conditioned people can be reconditioned by presenting the new conditional YOU.

ETA: I think there's this hype of being a help in this world, 'Did the dying man need help?'. If the man dies, we'll never know. I bet most people insist on saving my life if I were dying, and I detest the notion that it's all what we're supposed to be doing, the help, passing on the responsibility of making the right decision, like deflecting the idea as if that is dismissible so the 'professional' can help, this needs to be criticized a lot more. I'm independent, never wish to be a part of an organized crime. This is like a MS Windows update, here's a new updated version, it'll make you safe and secure, there's this bunch of helpful tips to keep one secure online, their lives depend on the job they do, keep creating this illusion of reality that they try to sell to the public, all in the names of this magical reasonings, we feed it back, that's what we can do. Let us do the evaluation on the help we receive, the less confusing, is that what we want? Complications are like the foundation of what we know, are you willing to help them? Being asked if I'm afraid to ask for help... That's very low opinion, don't you think? My answer would be different, like 'You don't look dependable, that's why I don't ask?'. Being always polite oversanitize the gut, diarrhea follows after that. How can you help me?, I guess this is another good question to ask, ain't nothing wrong with being on a bit cautious side, it's like sales rep being pushy, in this case though, helpful people are not being paid, may be expecting compensations later on, that's what a lot people do in their regular jobs.

Arrogance makes people ignorant and diminishs wisdom. Let the confident voice of help speak for itself.