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Originally Posted by divine1966
I think it's more than being annoyed. She says she walks on eggshells and can't focus at work because she worries that he will become mad about something when she goes home. She also is afraid of his reaction if she goes somewhere and does something. It doesn't mean she is afraid of physical assault but she is still experience lots of anxiety and fear over his behavior and his reactions to something he perceives she does wrong. She is afraid to tell him what she feels. It's more than annoyance.
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Correct. I am constantly thinking ahead to what his reaction is going to be to me doing something. Constantly worried about him getting upset about something minor, like me going out after work with a couple of female coworkers who he knows and likes, even though I've told him 3 times during the week that that's what I'd be doing. For some reason I come home and he makes me feel like I should have been home earlier. Not necessarily by what he says, but how he acts around me (being sarcastic or snubbing me).
He came home early from work on Tuesday complaining of not feeling well. With as much time as he takes off of work it's hard for me to tell when he's actually sick or if he just doesn't want to work. Was complaining of an achy neck and right arm. Didn't go into work yesterday because now he's all congested and coughing and basically acts like he's on death's door with a cold. I'm sure he won't go in today or the rest of the week because he feels crappy and he'll once again only have a few days on his paycheck. Last night it was constant sighing and grunting and loud mouth breathing because he's SO sick, yet when we watched a tv show that he was into, there was not one grunt or sigh or any sign that he was sick. As soon as it was over the sniffing and coughing and general malaise started again. Yet, when I'm sick he always says things like "Oh you're probably just hungover from last night" or "You just don't want to go out tonight". But he gets the sniffles and he just can't function.
I'm going off on a tangent here, but here's a whole other issue that irritates me. Him telling me I'm being ridiculous doing something and then him turning around the next day and doing the EXACT same thing. For example, we have 4 cats and I worry about them because we have had 2 go missing in the past year and I also hear coyotes late at night. We used to let them roam at night but as of last September, after our one went missing, I insisted we keep them in at night and shut the pet door. I like to get them inside by 8:30, sometimes earlier if they all happen to be around so I don't have to go looking for them. For so long he kept getting upset with me for bringing them in that early and if one wanted out after that he would just open the front door and keep it open and let them come and go as they please, even if I had just spent 10 minutes rounding them up so I wouldn't have to go looking for them later. He would go "It's ONLY 8:30 for god's sake, let them be out another hour or so." It's dark, it's been dark for 3 hours and I want them in, but he says their fine and everything will be fine. Yet the very next night he will be anxious to get them inside and close the pet door by 8! Last night was a new one where he actually closed the pet door at 7PM! Yet me doing it at 8:30 is ridiculous???