Here's the part three of this saga of helpful post.

If anyone says things like "I'll be there for you if you ever need help", this is nothing new, if someone takes those words and take up on the offer, the deal of helping is complete. Others willing to offer people help may come from the same place, for me if anything that goes over this line would be considered overbearing, the question of 'being afraid' is downright insulting actually. If we were talking about something of really serious nature, it may scare the helper too to come up with really helpful ideas, they should know if those may not work, taking chances on someone, probably this is the fundamental mechanics of 'the help' as I know it.

'I'm not in the market for help today!', I don't know what helps me, or anyone for that matter. It's not too bad to hear people being so helpful, a lot better than being robbed for the helpless state that someone thought you were in. Like I been hinting at, people may not as helpful as anyone might think, it's probably conditional. How much can they really take? Can they drive you home if they were asked? Honest words don't always get a reasonable response, what can we do about that?

I'm a help fundamentalist, anybody's offer of help is mere auxiliary to the true authority that is a self-driven-help, knowing the differences of all things shall pave your ways. So the reasons of the annoyance from the helper may be they are simply annoy-ful people? And you're the target. Laying down the boundaries in any relationships is very important, this commercialization of help related industry screwed us up. It used to be on "need to know" basis but look where we stand now. 'I know, I know.'. What do they really know when they don't even understand simple meaning of NO. They are always onto something. They want to help you, and you can give 'em. See if you can get thanks out of it.