(((Trace))),

Try to see this as not critcizing "her" though. I am sure you love her and appreciate the things she "did" manage to provide.

Why is this triggering you? Discovering that is important and I know that can be difficult as I have struggled like that myself. It made me uncomfortable too but I began to recognize some things that were "missing" that played an important part in the kind of person I became. It's not always something bad either.