I suppose it is fairly similar to over hearing your friends talking about you/analysiing you when they dont realise you can hear.

I insist on reading all correspondence about me. It helps me remember that i am 'the client' and stops me seeing the therpy room as almost this 'alternative private universe'.

What has hurt me most, as it would if you were overhearing friends, is when they express less than complimentary views that they havent said in person. or, lsightly different, they HAVE told you but in a very different way nad in a way that conveys a very different ATTITUDE. For instance a friend might tell you your new dress wasnt qutie her style but hten you hear her saying how she 'couldnt believe ......'s dress sense!!!'