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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
(((Trace))),
Try to see this as not critcizing "her" though. I am sure you love her and appreciate the things she "did" manage to provide.
Why is this triggering you? Discovering that is important and I know that can be difficult as I have struggled like that myself. It made me uncomfortable too but I began to recognize some things that were "missing" that played an important part in the kind of person I became. It's not always something bad either.  |
1. The Emotionally Absent Mother Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC
2. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD
Okay...of these two books looks like book #2 is more on target, in fact it pretty much is describing me to a tee. Also it just doesn't sound as bad as the other one. I may go back to the first book at some point, but right now this other one about having Emotionally Immature Parents is giving me what I need. In Katie's video she suggested writing a letter to the parent from the child and voicing what I felt were emotionally challenging for me. The thing is that kids don't know what's not emotionally acceptable, their parents are doing it so it must be okay, they are the adults...right? Anyway, I may write that letter this weekend. Maybe it will help just putting it into words. I feel like I need to get this done soon and out of the way because I start that new tele-counseling in a few weeks and I'm pretty sure they will only want to discuss one issue, regarding the PTSD. A new counselor and new psychiatrist is putting more pressure on me, it's like starting over *sigh*