Well the first thing to do is to acknowledge and value their assistance. Money isn't neccessarily the best way to do this; infact, it might even do the opposite. Hard to explain. It likely has something to do with the need for that acknowledgment to be thoughtful Other methods of acknowledgement could be more appropriate - and go far further than the perfuntionary act of a monetary transaction.

I try to repay people for their actions and support in more personal ways - ways that come from my heart and ways that show I have been thoughtful. I consider myself a good cook and I am fairly creative. I will entertain those whom have helped me with the kindess of a dinner. I will offer too on occaasion the gift of a piece of art.