Maybe some who've been practicing so many years don't make enough of an effort to evaluate/re-evaluate what they are doing. I wish my therapist belonged to some sort of therapy group, where they discuss cases and exchange ideas. I know some exist.
Other therapists have supervision. I've ask him about having another to talk with or run ideas by, and he says he doesn't do that.
The loan issue felt a little strange at first, but he does give me a reduced rate and therapy is an investment. I do feel really bad about not being able to afford what I need. I am still underemployed as a result of my issues, like ability to concentrate and have strong motivation for work I don't like, and have no disposable income with high medical expenses and other reasons.
Anyway, he was trying to help me through a solution. Perhaps it would have been ideal if part of the solution was adjusting the therapy to make it more tolerable with once a week, but maybe it won't be as effective. I don't want to still be doing this 10+ years down the road.... I want to be done within 5 years or so.
I will ask him to explain his reasoning more. He gave me another appointment, which felt containing and primary reason I am doing better.
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Originally Posted by kecanoe
This situation stinks. I do not believe that it is therapeutic to withdraw from a client. I think Ts need to know themselves well enough to know what to say is ok from the outset. It's their job to help struggling people. They need to know to what lengths it is ok for them to go to do so.
I agree with you that your situation is re-traumatizing. For me, walking away was the best choice when I was being re-traumatized. But I had other ts to support me through that.
I'm one that also presents a challenging diagnosis. That is no excuse for a t to mess with your head. I agree that asking t to explain his reasoning until it makes sense to you seems like the only way to go.
and I am appalled that your t wants you to take out a loan to see him more.
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I though the 2-3 year mark you mentioned was a milestone for losing patience? I just inferred that from your post. Sorry if I misunderstood.
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Originally Posted by Elio
Sorry, I'm a little lost to your questions. Why is what and lack of patience around what?
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Yes, therapy seems to be different in this regard. I don't see many here mentioning being told of technical processes and things much. I've seen a number of therapists, while mostly short term, and they don't reveal much.
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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I would think they would tell me what they're doing because I am a paying client. I don't do work for my clients (different field) and not tell them what I'm doing in exchange.
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