Geeze, you are in a hard situation. I am sorry your daughter is so ill and I will pray that she will be better soon. I am not siding with your hubby by any means, but for some people getting away is the only way for them to cope or to forget for a little while. Again, I say, I am not saying that his decision is right. Infact he probably got the ATTITUDE because he knew it was not the best decision. Maybe if you think about this it might make you cool down a little. Even if you still do not want him to go. Maybe if you approach him differently, you may find he will change his mind, or tell you why he really thinks the trip is so important to him, whether it should be or not.