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with DID when a person perceives their alter in words like "with me", "together" "merged" in my location that points to alters becoming one with the one writing the post.[QUOTE]
"With Me" - to me it has felt as if they do become connected with me. They are still "who they are" but it feels like they are "with me" and not frozen in the middle of a traumatic incident.
[QUOTE] when alters dissociate into more alters the same elements need to be there for, for example when the body born dissociated into more alters.... in my location that means going through extreme trauma. then when it happens no one feels it happening because in my location dissociation is feeling numb, feeling spaced out, and feeling disconnected (as in not all there, not feeling connected to ones limbs and body)[QUOTE]
When this happens, for me, it feels kind of numb but it's more like a vacuum feeling, and I have "moved back" and become an observer/passenger. I'm still "there" but it's more like I'm watching what's going on.
[QUOTE]since the orginal poster did not say they were undergoing an extreme trauam, did not say they felt numb, spaced out or a disconnection from their body parts, quite the opposite.. the poster stated they felt safe, the treatment provider guided the alter to feeling and being in a safe place. there was nothing traumatic going on here.[QUOTE]
There was no trauma in the moments when those parts of me were taken to a safe place. The trauma was in the moment that they came "to be" in the traumatic incident.
My question about "splitting" was the feeling that a part of them was left there in that traumatic moment, when another part of that one was taken to safety. Stuck there. Frozen.
I'm having a hard time explaining this and making sense of it.
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this lead me back to what I experienced when going through the alters integrating/ becoming one with me or as some locations call it merging together,
Trailrunner what you feel as a remnant left behind in me was a unresolved issue/ memory, my alters felt ready to merge together with me but some left behind some memories and problems that they had been dealing with for me that they felt I could now deal with on my own. some were by normal any mental disorder term would be called a repressed memory and others were just issues that took time for me to learn how to do.
give it some time now that the alter is in your words "with you" everything you need is there for you to work on what ever is left behind be it a common every day memory, or a repressed memory or an issue of some kind that the alter felt you could handle now so was leaving it behind.
and of course my standard continue working with your treatment provider, they are one ones working with you and your alters so they are in the best position to help you with dealing with what ever buried memories, emotions, issues that they left behind as they merge together with you.
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Thank you! Maybe what you are saying is true. Maybe I am strong enough to handle what was left there. It's just a very anxious feeling that I need to help it because a part of it is still there, in that bad place.
I am going to ask my counselor about maybe doing EMDR for those places. I'm still new to it, and not sure if that's a doable option. That's just what's coming to my mind right now.
Thank you amandalouise!