I see one t who is always late. I am firmly convinced that she will not change. At my first appointment, the receptionist (who kind of knew me from me seeing another t at the clinic) kind of whispered that it would perhaps be a good idea to call and see how late she was running before leaving home. I know she gets grief from some of the other ts in that practice. I do not believe that anything I would say would have any effect on what is likely a lifelong pattern. I choose to stay with her because of her expertise. But I have had to just accept the lateness as being about her, not about me. I don't know if your t is that ingrained with her lateness.

I notice my ts yawn when anxious. I wonder if that might be what is going on with her?

And note taking is just a matter of style, I think. My ts all take notes.

It kind of sounds like this t has 3 strikes against her. Have you thought about seeing someone else?