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<font color="green">I wonder why you put her into therapy. I read your post but...
I have 4 children, two that were born to me and two that are adopted. These two need a lot of help to function and to heal the abuses of the past. I go to therapy with them, there are very few sessions that I am not in there with them and the therapist. One big reason for this was that they were known to lie and manipulate adults. Without my input they would have had their therapists for snacks. Even when I sit out of a session , I expect to be informed of the gist of what happened if not the details.
Slipping grades and poor life choices can simply be the result of a teen's lack of mental maturity. The forebrain where executive functioning takes place is barely functioning during these years. It can also be a warning of bigger problems.
I would ask for some joint sessions and talk to my daughter about her therapy. I would have been in there from the first to make sure everything was on the up and up. But then again I have caught my dds flat out lying about me.
Personally,I am not all that comfortable with our privacy laws as regards our children. In MN if your child is 12, she can obtain birth control and the doctors must NOT inform the parent. At age 14 they can stop taking medications and NO ONE can make them take their meds even if they become psychotic off the meds! If your dd is promiscuous you cannot force her to be on birth control. Even with full guardianship and having had my dd declared incompetent I cannot talk to her gyn doctor without her consent. This is crazy.
Talk to your dd and set up some family sessions. Be proactive again like you were before. </font>
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dalila
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