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Originally Posted by slowandgentle
I have the same problem sometimes and I find it really uncomfortable to be assertive enough to tell T, so I understand. But it is your time, and also T can't read minds so sometime like
'I'm really interested in the mindfulness stuff, and appreciate you bringing it up, thanks, but there's also quite a bit I need to cover after the break. Would it be ok to come back to mindfulness in another session so I get to cover both?'
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That's a really good way to put it, thank you. I will try that if it happens again!
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0
I'd ask "excuse me, is this my session or yours?" 
Maybe not, I've never had a rambling T, but I'd like to think that would be my response to one, because it would annoy and frustrate the begeeziz out of me...
How about discussing with T what a polite STFU would look like? It could be a code word or a signal, like when a preschool teacher puts her finger on her lips and (ideally) the class follows suit and falls silent...
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That's a great idea, since she is the one who says she talks too much, I could ask her how she would like me to tell her to stop! We are both very blunt with each other (which is how I like it) but I feel like just saying "STFU" is TOO blunt. So I could ask.
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
This has been a recurring issue with me too. Al of my ts talk too much and I have just begun to realise that they were teaching me something. To become more assertive. See I don't talk much and am naturally very quiet so that gives them some extra room to talk. I wish I could offer you some advice but I think it's a hard lesson to learn and it will keep coming into our life till we learn it. Your t seems very open to you giving her some more directions on how you would like your session to go. Do you think you could practise ways of being more assertive with her? I am sure she would be happy to experiment a little with this!
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I agree, this is a lesson that happens outside of therapy too, and I will try to practice! I will try to bring this up next time!
