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Old Jan 14, 2017, 12:08 PM
adampeps adampeps is offline
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Originally Posted by healingme4me View Post
I certainly feel that once there's a disintegration within a relationship, in walks a vulnerable state, hence the enormity of the feelings regarding the other woman. To me it's part fantasy, not that she isn't a very real person with very real interactions, and part escape from the pain/anguish/hurt/dissatisfaction/what-have-you that is caused by the void/instability of the marriage.

Not uncommon, what so ever. It does bring to light a crossroads.

Tough place to be in, for sure.
Yup, tell me about it. It's a struggle between:

A - I don't know much about this newer person but know if we hit it off that it would make me happy, bring me new happiness and excitement

B - If we did hit it off, it would mean the end of my relationship (although i'm not sure it is doing well now), loss of children full time, financial loss, etc.

I feel like this time the grass would be greener on the other side but there is no way of guaranteeing that at all as well which is what I keep telling myself. Plus as i've said earlier, I don't even know a good approach to initiate some dialogue with this other woman without potential embarrassment and guilt.
Thanks for this!
healingme4me