Thanks - that is actually what my wife and I discussed. We both know things aren't the same (we aren't sure if its because of the business of kids, previous issues, etc). But we are both having trouble figuring out what we want to be happy.

Right now for me, and this sounds bad, is to be excited again. Like you mentioned the feeling of alive. I worry that because my wife was my first that I was under that "alive" feeling for too long and maybe wasn't as in love as I thought.

This new woman of interest might be the same thing. However it is impossible to know.

Thanks for the advice!