My ex-husbsnd always bragged about his high IQ but in reakity he had NO common sense & because he chose to only do things he liked to do, he was the most useless husband as a partner...& forget EQ....im sure it was 0. Even out T said he had the emotional abiluty of a child.

There were certain things he could do & if that was all that life involved he would have succeeded.

As for college not everyone has what it takes to get through the classes required for graduation. I started off college as a music major with my major instrument being flute. My parents hadnt had money for lessons. I got by until going on after I got my AA degree in music. Then I started taking lesspns with the best of the best & practicing 8 hours a day only to find out that even with my professional flute, i was NEVER going to have the ability it took to be a professional flute player. This was a difficult awareness to accept but it was reality. I could practice 24 hours a day forever & I would NEVER be good enough to be a professional flute player who could make a career out of it. It didnt mean I couldnt play is groups that demanded less quality but it was important for me to acknowledge my limitations & to realistically apply it to my life career choices.

I had a high enough IQ that changing my major in my junior year & syarting all over in a new major was possible & I did after 4 more years of college get my degree in Accounting Information Systems with a computer science minor but I struggled to just get through a year of calculus that my minor required. It brought my GPA down to 3.2.

The interesting thing was that my ex H with the extremely high IQ graduated with a 2.3 GPA because he had no interest in classes he didnt like & he didnt get the job he expected to be given at graduation because of his bad GPA where I with a lower GPA had 3 job offers at the time of my graduation.

Moral is, IQ doesnt mean anything but it is important to acknowledge & acceot yiur limitations when deciding what to do wuth your life. Not everyone's mind is capable of getting them through college no matter hiw much determination one has. We have to observe out talents & abilities. If i hadnt been able to squeek by Calculus with a C, I would have never been able to have the minor I had.

It is important to get in touch with the takents & capabiluties that you have, not what you think or wish you had, & find a position that fits you.

I did boring data entry working my way through college. A totally mindless job. It made me realize I needed a career that challenged me intellectually & I loved to solve problems. Some people have completely different skills & abilities.

Dont know if your college has a skills assessment center that helps students find their areas of strengths & weaknesses to help you determine if college is even the right place for you but that is where I woukdvtry to start.

I know that social security had testing they do for people on disability thinking about hetting back into the work force they may have that testing open to others. Your communuty social services could provide you with that information. Lol i failed that miserably because it wasnt geared to people who had been professionals but it was great for those who werent & you might find something like that helpful.

If you try to force yourself into a place your skills & abilities dont fit, you will only be miserable in the long run & end up failing while trying to perform at a level your talents dont fit.

My husband had problems with social interaction & communication. Sadly it limited his computer engineering career. He bkamed it of company politics but in reality it was his own abiluties that limited him from ending up getting the promotions he thought he deserved. Its important to be in touch with ourselves & our abilities. Arrogant views of ourselves doesnt make others see us the same way we want to be seen either.

Its best to just be realistic & to know ourselves & to aim for what we KNOW weare capable of doing & what we can achieve.