Here's another point. Let's say this woman is really special. Now I'm going to put this bluntly. Why would a really wonderful woman who would be a great catch want a guy who's already been married and has two kids, when a fox like that could get a guy without all that baggage?

But - just for the sake of argument - let's say this woman is really into you and would like a relationship. So you two spend some time together. Then you say, "I want you so much, I'ld be willing to dump my family to be with you." So let's imagine she responds with, "It really sucks that your wife and kids have to be hurt, but what we feel for each other is so rare and we're soulmates . . . so, yeah, I think you should talk to your wife about dissolving your marriage." What kind of character would a woman have to have to think that way?

Show me a woman who would encourage a man to dump his wife and two young kids to be with her, and I'll show you a woman who is a douche and/or a moron.

I know I promised not to be judgemental. What I'm saying is that, if this woman is as special as you think she is, then she would be horrified at you leaving your family for her. On the other hand, if she would be okay with that, then she ain't too special and she's not a woman who would be a good catch for any man.

A really nice woman would, usually, be totally creeped out by a married father of two children putting the moves on her. By coming on to her, you might end up arousing her disgust.

Just something to think about.