RJ have you ever tried getting involved with a group like a local chapter of Father's rights association or anything like that , my late wife and I were involved years ago and even represented the local chapter on several TV news and talk shows, and no they aren't just for fathers they fight for anyone who is getting the shaft from a former spouse on issues such as custody and access to the children, might be worth your time to find a local group meeting and if nothing else get some support from people going thru it , and people that are getting somewhere and how they are doing it.