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Originally Posted by graceandjoy
I am right there with you. My husband and I have been together for a total of 17 years, 14 of them married. I have emotionally checked out of our relationship. He is controlling, criticizes, blames, and shames me. I have been seeing a therapist for over a year. Tomorrow I will see a divorce attorney.But I know for a fact when I tell him I want a divorce he will flip out. I have told him before I wanted to leave and he said no, I can't I mean everything to him, he will do better. Then I wonder if I'm going crazy. The bad part is I feel very trapped and have started to make very bad personal decisions to have a release of emotion. My therapist is worried about me and said I'm on a downward spiral. All this to say, I'm sorry and I wish we didn't have to go through this.
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Im sorry you are going through the same thing. It's a horribly confusing situation.. i do love him but I love the man he used to be and constantly hope we will go back to that.
He has been physical in the past when I have rose to defend myself or have caught him lying etc.. but it doesn't happen very often at all so it doesn't FEEL abusive.
We seem to go through very rough patches and all hell breaks loose. Then we get back on track and im happy again. I see a therapist and she doesn't dwell too much on our relationship at all so I never get any answers.
Are you leaving your husband?