I think getting exercise is great advice. In fact I should probably find a way to spend a couple hours on my days off doing some sort of exercise ideally. I love swimming but haven't gone since I moved here. I need to find a new gym.

I don't know about an agenda. I sometimes plan my weekends out, my husband likes to know in advance of plans. But I am kind of a spontaneous person and feeling like I am too scheduled is overwhelming to me. It's like I can't find the happy medium of being able to relax but still actually keep busy enough on weekends.

My husband and I have been having some tough times but we really love each other and are working it out. Right now he hasn't found a job and is home with our baby since we moved, we aren't sure if he will go back to work or not. But we were fighting a ton about him not doing hardly any chores and I still was expected to work full time and basically do 90 percent of the cooking, shopping, and cleaning which in my mind is bull ****. He is doing better now with "helping" but I still feel like all the planning and making sure things get done falls on me. And I still do well over half the work of the household even though he's home. He has mental health issues also and he plays video games way too much! I asked him to help me unpack but he has to finish something on his game...

Anyway as for what brings me joy, I have a hard time finding hobbies. When I was younger I kind of went a little crazy and got my pilots license and scuba diving certification in one year. But i don't really do those things anymore. Flying is super expensive and I am kind of afraid to do it now. My dad died in a car accident a few years ago and it totally changed me. I have dogs and like spending time with them. I tried to get into training and agility stuff with them but I always thought dog trainers were so stuck up and I just didn't seem to fit in. I sort of like cooking, and like going to movies but we don't do that much since we have the baby. How the heck do you find hobbies you actually enjoy? I think it's kind of ADHD related but I just can't seem to get into anything. And I don't have a lot of extra energy (thyroid related I think..)

Thanks for your suggestions Everyone