Well.....now I'm thinking my mom wasn't emotionally absent, the description just didn't fit. But........I did find a book on being Emotionally Immature and BINGO! That is so what we went through and still going through even now. It perfectly describes us both. So if your dealing with identifying, with putting a name to you and your mom's relationship I highly suggest looking into Emotional Immaturity.
Also in doing this reading I had an ah ha moment with why I don't trust therapist and resent going to them. It's not because I'm "not ready for therapy" as I've been told. It's because talking to a therapist is like talking to my mother. I go to a person who I feel can answer my questions and support me and it's not there with a T either. It's kind of sad I had to figure this out on my own and the therapists were so quick to let me go, with out looking into why it was happening.
To me is seems therapists take the easy road with clients, not really wanting to deal with the complex cases. Just my opinion though.
Has anyone else had a situation where the T just wants to discuss one issue that's bothering you and really doesn't want to look at the past issues that are bothering you just as much?