I personally would probably distance myself from allowing the relationship to grow closer AT THIS POINT. I would probably go into a "wait & see mode". Being as supportive as I can without allowing the relationship to go any farther right now.

After getting out of a DV marriage & really not being that stable yourself at this time, your son is the one that needs your best given to him & not someone who in reality once you do get more stable might find out is not the right person for you anyway. 6 months isn't even close to enough time to KNOW how you really feel about someone. At 6 months what people think is love is still infatuation of what they think they feel or want to feel about the person. At 9 months I encountered an experience with the guy I was going to marry. I wish I had paid attention to those red flags & never married him. I rationalized his behavior & let my mom influence my thinking. BIG MISTAKE.

Your son needs a stable environment to heal from what he came out of also & right now he should be your concern. If this person stabilizes & his life comes together in a way that would make a stable environment for both you & your son....I'm sure he will be there for you when he does get stable & proves that stability.

I'm not saying walk away completely...stay in touch....encourage his getting stable....but from a distance, not intimately involved as you are now....like a separation period where both of you spend time getting your own selves together....THEN....see what happens.

You said you didn't mean to get involved with him...two mistakes don't cancel each other out. Use your WISE MIND in handling this, NOT your emotional mind. Any time we rely totally on our emotional mind to make our decisions there is usually lots of regret in the future.

I'm sure your gut feeling is waving red flags right about now. Our gut feel is our logical mind screaming at us to PAY ATTENTION!!!!