If i lived with someone who never took a day off, i'd be depressed too!

His job is his primary relationship. It has become his addiction and probably his identity as well.

When questioned, he blames you because he doesn't want to face his illness.

As for this "other wives can handle it" Pure BS! He is married to you, not them.

Have you actually talked to the other wives? You may be surprised. (Most cops end up marrying fellow cops or other first responders btw.)

anyway, what he does with his life is his deal.

Your life is your deal.

Google sites for wives of law enforcement. I doubt you are the only one suffering.