> I thought maybe some of you see a relationship between how you were parented and the anxiety you experience in your everyday lives.

Of course. I've always known that. From the book "Understanding the Borderline Mother" mine was primarily the Witch. Here's something that my brother recently wrote to me that was characteristic of our life:

"One scene that will forever live in my memory was at dinnertime in the .... Avenue house in ..., when she dispensed a lengthy diatribe about everything she considered wrong with me (or so it seemed). In total frustration and in tears, I finally shouted "You just shut up!", upon which she got up and literally slapped me to the floor."

Now I understand a lot more about "borderlines" and all the rest of it, but unfortunately it still feels most of the time as though I am back there in childhood. It did not make for trust. And most of my childhood seems lost in the mists.