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Originally Posted by Lost_in_the_woods
Thanx.
The pain is unbearable...but I am no stranger to pain.
I cannot find peace because I cannot understand why would someone say they'll talk to you tomorrow and then no explanation?? If he left in anger, I could understand cutting communication abruptly a bit...or if it was a short undefined relationship perhaps, people sometimes just fall off...but my husband of over a decade?...no. no matter what the circumstances ...unless very extreme...which no..not to these lengths...without any explaintion...it makes no sense... I can not find peace..don't know how to move forward...
I know no one except him has the answer... I am at a loss for how to cope..which is why I posted it here.
  
~Scarlett♡☆(lost) |
Hi,
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I saw him was like we were us again..both messed up in the head but happy and so much still in love..talked to him a couple of times the next day..last thing he said was" it's all gonna be ok
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It seems that you both had problems in the marriage. I can understand your anger and disappointment but it would have happened in the future.
Your best course of action is to be indifferent; to him, indifferent and objective in the legal side of separation and divorce. Dont miss him! Decide what you want your future to be like and start planning for it. If you need company start looking for it. It will change your focus and your mood..
As you can perceive, indifference is the most effective way to get your own back! Regard him as a stranger from now on.