I've been dxd with "avoidant personality" and I've been married for a long time..

However I was labelled "withdrawn" etc since early childhood..

Different mean people (irl) have had different, negative and mean takes on me (most of them wrong )

However, since i turned into a bear, they tend to keep their mouths shut

Also, although the therapist I saw irl for a long time was extremely mean and cruel at times, one of the more helpful things he said is that he believes "personality can change"...

(Although as he had links with the NHS UK he also said "there is very little we can do" WELL THANKS )

I don't spend much time in an "avoidant community" but I don't personally believe people with this dx are as alike as some may believe