Hi,

I'll start off by saying that helping others who are in need of help is a very positive quality to have, and even though it sounds like you oftentimes don't get the thanks that you deserve, I think that helping others is commendable because it makes the world a better place, and a better world is something that I'd expect all of us to benefit from in one way or another. One thing that I've noticed, however, is that those who are very helpful toward others sometimes take putting others first a little too far and become so focused on pleasing others that they become consumed with how others perceive them. In some cases, proving that any incorrect perceptions that others might have about them are indeed incorrect might also become an issue. Do you think that it might be the case that some of what I've described here might at least help to explain some of the problems that you described in your post?

As far as addressing the issues that you have with pornography, a possible addiction to Coke Zero, wearing women's clothes, and being right are concerned, it is, of course, up to you to decide how to address these things, but I think that it would be worthwhile to ask yourself about the extent to which these things are problems that you think need to be corrected and about the extent to which your desire to make changes in these areas might be based more on pleasing others than it is on changing something that you really think should be changed. For instance, I don't see wearing women's clothes as something that harms anyone else, whether you're male or female, so maybe wearing women's clothes on at least some occasions isn't something that would be best to change, if that's what you'd prefer to do. Perhaps some of the other issues that you mentioned are things that would be best for you to work on in one way or another, but even if your reasons for working on these issues might have something to do with making others happy, I think that considering how making changes in these areas might lead to outcomes that are likely to be either beneficial or detrimental not only for others, but also for yourself, is something that would be worthwhile.