Hello BipolarAmy: I'm sorry you find yourself to be in this most difficult situation. I don't know as I have any useful suggestions for you. I guess what occurs to me is that perhaps waiting until after your pdoc appointment to reach out to your husband would be for the best. A "cooling off period" may not be a bad idea. But, of course, you don't want that to go on for too long either. It's difficult to know how to handle this for certain as you well realize. In the end, it may, or may not, even make any real difference one way or the other. Anyway... I mostly just wanted to let you know I read your post & I wish you all the best.