We have friends that are all married and have been married for some time now, at least 5 years for all of them I believe. They have their problems but I know that any of them would be willing to talk to us. I've also thought maybe we should seek some professional help that way we can actually learn how to communicate with one another.
We have a lot of things we like to do, like playing computer games for example. We even have a game that we play together but the server is all messed up so we haven't gotten to for a while. But we still have a lot of other things we enjoy doing together. I know I'm in this for the long run and I do believe he is too. Lately, we've both been a little frustrated and unhappy...but he isn't telling me this stuff. I know he wouldn't really cheat but it makes me uncomfortable to know his ex is being told about our problems and about me. Plus it really bothers me that he hasn't said anything about it at all and I guarantee if I checked his phone- the messages and calls would be deleted. No record of it.
Thank you for your response though, I really appreciate you taking the time to answer.
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Originally Posted by babb798
I read your concerns , first I would like to say is that no one should be held responsible for another person's happiness.
I would think in a perfect world we would all compliment each other , sad to say but with so much baggage we bring into relationships it no wonder we all have issues that cause problems . I suggest you find a couple who may be older but that's not necessary have a perfect relationships and ask them how they have made Thier relationship work.
Two are better than one.
My wife and I purchased iPhones and we communicate with one another in tips on how to use them ,lol.
Find something that both can help each other with and let him know he is your hero . I know that sounds dorky but if you would try this and see how it works as a man I know when my wife makes me feel that I can fix anything with her words .
Now another thing choose your battle something's are not worth the trouble .
It will not cause you to loose your life if by some chance he is cheating .
There is an clip of Media giving council to a young man about relationships gone bad .
YouTube clip some one sent me in face book.
It's worth watching.
Life is to short to be unhappy please don't be dependent on another person to make you complete . We live in a broken world and we all are very short .
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