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nonightowl · Jan 17, 2017, 02:59 PM

My mom is in Stage 4 of lung cancer meaning she doesn't have long.

I have mixed feelings....We've never been close and this illness changes nothing. As emotionally distant and critical of me as always. She's still got the strength to yell at me about my job situation or how much make up I wear.

I agree that it's different losing someone you are close to vs. someone you are not. It's just different.......I've experienced it before but it was back in 2002.

I'm still grieving the loss of a friend last summer. His death was sudden.

A woman in my grief group said her aunt has lung cancer and probably just 2 months to live. She's close to her.

This loss is gradual...

I don't know which is "more painful"-I don't think I can choose. I miss my friend more than ever cause he a similar dynamic with his parents. He was my age too.

I know she's going, I just don't know when. Day by day, easier said than done. Something can happen as I'm typing this. I guess there's no way I can really be prepared even though I know what's going on.

Sorry for your loss..