My abuser is my mother. I have cut all contacts with her at 14 when I left home with just the clothes on me and never went back. Fortunately my best friend at that time was able to accommodate me and lend me some clothes. We talked back again at about 19 I think. Even then our relationship has never been smooth, she has tried to control my life and how I spent my money and of course I always told her off. Anyway, last summer after my grandmother's funeral I asked her to apologise for what she did and she still accused me and said I was a difficult child who needed discipline so I just cut her off. I did met her at my sister's New Year's Eve party and the ambiance was not great and an uncle has tried to bully me and I just cut him off too (I was very disappointed as I was close to him but people can be quite strange sometimes and I accept it now). I just understand that the most important is to protect myself.