The further you fill in the blanks of you're life with him I just can not understand what you actually like about him, I mean really... You snoop on his phone. Email, Facebook etc

You complain about him but you are unable of divorce and starting over , you have no children to consider thank goodness.

Why not just accept him the way he is ? Stop being so resentful stop the anger, you all ready pay for everything.

Maybe just back off and stop snooping and trying to over analyze everything he does or says.

Is this an arraigned marriage ? Maybe that's the " unable to divorce " bit.