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I feel different somehow, I think it's because what happened is being recognised by someone else and I'm being suported by so many wonderful people here and IRL.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Oh that is so great!! Being "heard" and validated can be so powerful!

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I will never forget or forgive the abuser, but I can put him in a place where he cant hurt me anymore, cant ruin my life or that of those around me.....because if I didn't do this, he would be winning.....

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yea, you don't have to forget or forgive. Not letting him continue to have power over you is a huge step towards inner peace(IMO)
Good for you jinny!

mandy