I actually think this is a really great idea. I thought about using my friend and saying she met someone and decided to talk about this person with her ex and tell him from there how I feel and see if he brings it up. I worry this could backfire and make him turn away. But it just really bothers me knowing that she is now involved in our issues and it's just not right. Especially when I know he would be upset if I involved my ex.
My issue now just lies in figuring out how to bring it up without telling him. I have done this once before (just checked messages because he had been ignoring me all morning) and told him. It didn't go very well and he was really upset so I want to avoid saying it this time. But he had been ignoring me to help her with issues involving her family life and needing advice from him for some reason as he knew who these people were (so I guess her
friends don't?). He's been home for a little while now and still hasn't said anything.
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Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch
I always say, listen to your gut instinct.
If you smell a rat, there sometimes is ...
Here's the catch. You obtained his texts underhandedly (rightfully so!) ... so how do you bring up the fact that you know about them?
He is out of line and should under no circumstances be discussing your relationship issues with his ex - it is absolutely none of her business.
You could try ask him, "Who do you speak to when we have problems xyz. I've spoken to my best friend _____ about seeking a job / my previous job issue as well as you."
See if he brings her name up. If he doesn't you have the option to tell him you know - but be warned that is not going to go down well and likely would have consequences.
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