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Originally Posted by Zedsdead
He loves his sons and they love him to pieces. He would be *heartbroken* if he didn't get to see them every day. I feel like my son's need their father in their life just as much. He spends a lot of time with our oldest son 2 years old. He takes him fishing, bike riding and loves to be with him. He is family orientated in the fact hes always planning outings for us, always wants to involve the children. However, he doesn't help with the responsibilities, nap times, healthy eating, learning, school or doctors appointments etc. Our youngest is 8 months old and needs more attention. He refuses to watch him, gets angry when he cries, but says it is his age hes not good with and will be more involved when he gets a bit older.
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I think this counts as something good about your H except for his anger when your 8 month old cries. I think crying is the way an 8 month old communicates their needs and they should always be responded to.
I guess I am a bit traditional in that I think, if a spouse is working 40 hours a week and the other isn't, then it is OK for the working parent to expect the other to have more responsibility toward taking care of many things regarding the children. However, when he is not working, he should be helping you much more.
Anyways, I know it is hard to express all the feelings we have for our spouses and they go through hard times too. It is all so complicated that I don't envy the fact that you may need to leave him. Please know that this is a place that you can continue to vent about your situation. Sometimes it is embarrassing when our spouses don't treat us well. I am proud of you for confronting him about his behavior!