I am a nervous mess right now anticipating giving my ex-T. a letter today or tomorrow (after I get up the nerve to text her). It's been awhile since I posted. I was terminated September of 2015 and was a complete mess. I never understood my feelings towards her and was crushed when she terminated me. My new/current therapist has worked with me over the past year and I've realized how much my ex-T. had no idea how to help me. I've also learned that she was emotionally abusive to me in a subtle way.

I now see her at school sports because our kids are somewhat on the same team. She has been very friendly and we have gotten along great. However, my truth isn't showing. I don't want to hurt her but I feel I can't move on until I share my experience with her.

So, I've written her a letter explaining my experience. I've had a few friends and my therapist read it and they all say it is worded very well and shouldn't upset her. She used to always say I wanted to name my feelings and put them in a box and that she was going to send me a box or a bow to my house. In the letter I've described the letter as the bow on the box in which I'll put this experience.

Anyway, I'm extremely nervous. I know that she could be totally fine or not talk to me again. But, I feel strongly that I should share my experience. I finally have a voice to what was going on inside me.

Just sharing as I could use some encouragement/support today!