Have you done marriage counseling with a GOOD therapist? I say GOOD because we just used my therapist & he was useless & did nothing to even bring out what ended up being the REAL problem in our marriage though he did agree that my husband had stopped his emotional growth as a child. He didn't get down to the real issue of why. Though I know now there was NO way to fix the problem. He was good with our daughter so I had stuck around & just distanced myself from the marriage in my computer engineering career. Definitely NOT a good solution either but it is important for them to have a father in their lives.

Gut feel is that by leaving you are making a statement that you don't TRUST the change he has made as being permanent. Sometimes we need to make the statement to sink it into their mind. Through this separation & if therapy & time proves that he REALLY has changed, you can always get back together if it does prove safe.

My feeling is that always better safe than sorry....time proves the truth & with supervised visitation to start with your H will still have contact with your child.

Yes, it makes life more difficult but in the long run it might actually make it better if your H really is able to take to heart the statement you are making in leaving