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Originally Posted by xRavenx
I'm new to the whole online dating thing...
Someone I went on two dates recently with has been texting me a lot throughout the day. He usually initiates the conversation and keeps it going. The amount of time he texts me goes beyond the amount most couples text each other. Since I admit to feeling a little bit lonely lately, I admit it is nice to have someone to hear from him and know someone is thinking of me. It's also exciting to learn about a new person's interests, etc. Texting does offer being able to think and write out my responses and maybe add a little more flirtation, although of course it doesn't beat picking up the phone and talking.
However, I wonder if too much texting early on could be detrimental to the process of getting to know each other in person. This has all happened very fast. Even after only our first meeting, he started texting a lot each day. I hope this won't kill future attraction or our ability to form a potentially lasting bond. I'm wondering if I should take steps to scale back the amount of communication for this reason. What are your thoughts? Once again, I am not used to "meeting" someone online. The concept is very different for me.
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It's good that you're being analytical here and thinking about whether the texting is good or not.
I don't think that it's detrimental to your being able to get to know each other in person. Lack of being in person is. If it kept you from meeting in person, yes, I would say it is but really just because you text a lot does not keep you from meeting in person. They are not mutually exclusive activities.
Another thought is although texting, chatting, and other online means of communication is not a replacement for meeting in person, it does give you the opportunity to get to know someone on a level that doesn't happen always in physical only (meaning in person) meeting and dating. Thing is, typically in a dating atmosphere, where you're in person, you can be hindered or distracted somewhat from having more in depth conversations. You'll be busy enjoying the time with the other person, enjoying the romance etc. Which are all good things but I find that being able to talk online via Skype, text or what not the conversations can be more intellectual.
Granted in a textless relationship these things still happen but I think it takes getting past the early romantic dates to get there and with texting early on you can get to know the person inside earlier.
Just my thoughts. texting can be good too.