First I don't wanto derail the original post. Sorry.
But I saw ur first post as advice of "if you wanto get over someone, get under someone else."
Not a great idea.
Then asking how the sex was & how old the OP is....if you stand back there's red flags of you being a troll basically. Sorry.
I was hoping for a response so thank you for explaining yourself to us & the OP. Maybe when you ask questions you could include why you're asking it so we can all see your train of thought.

And yes gmts I most definitely agree with you that abuse, in any way, shape or form can affect us for a very long time, but IMHO it should not destroy the rest of your life. I know it does for some people, but hopefully we're all here to help each other so this does not happen to us & we can move on.
Thanks for your explanation....it helped me anyway.