((((HUGS))))
maybe your wife is disappointed in your choice...but, give it some time..she's still there..maybe there is still hope for you and your family...what's done is done...but if her problem is she is fed up that she feels you never listened to her..well then let her know that you are listening. You are sorry you wish you had you made a mistake but you can not undone the job circumstances, but if you are willing and able to address her needs otherwise and show her how much you truly appreciate her and love her and value her..that's what it really is all about...at the end of the day everyone just wants to feel loved, valued and heard.
Maybe I am misunderstanding if so I apologize...
But hang in there!..whatever happens there is the hope of tomorrow.
-LITW