I'm in no way unexperienced, I already ruled out the basics. We've tried different types of condoms, and while they obviously have a negative impact we still need to use them.

I believe it has to do with the ADHD or at least that combined with nervousness, because he does get very distracted. I only get to see him intimately on rare occasions, like every other month or so. I'd really like some more tailored advice if possible. I do believe it has a lot to do with focus.