Thank you for the advice and stories given. Im sorry you ladies had to endure the pain of deciding to leave but happy that you got out of it.
I know i need to leave. I guess him leaving to work will be a good time for me to put boundaries in place and ask him not to come back.
I just am not in love with him anymore.. so my only conflict is the kids and how it will affect them. I'm so scared they will struggle because of it

Last night I asked him to talk, he laughed it off and told me to stop acting like Dr Phil. I left it for a while and brought it up again when we were in bed. He switched the topic to what movie we should watch every time I started to talk, he interrupted with something unrelated.
Im so tired of feeling like I have no voice.. like im a ghost and nobody can hear me.
At least I know i did all I could do to try and salvage something with him. Hopefully my children understand one day