Angela, I wish I could show you the book we made when our Nicole died. It had different people's memories and pictures. I love having it. By the way, my Jane died Sept 16th, but I didn't know for about 6 weeks. Grief is a hard road and yet life is destined to be full of it. I don't understand that. If I were Jon's mom, If I lost my baby boy, I would want you to tell me every detail. I would want you to look me in the eyes while speaking and I would want you to show me your sadness and validate mine. Oh man, this is hard, I hope I never loose another child. PEACE my dear friend.