You are at odds with yourself. Do not impose your own life expectations on another person please!
I think we all have at some point in life, an image of our ideal mate..but, Prince charming... or in your case Princess Charming...is not allows our childhood fairytale image exactly. You have not come to terms with the outward appearance not lining up! But inward it seems this person is your ideal. The stuff that is needed to make a true happily ever after is not on the surface..except for basic attraction. You need to decide what is truly important to you. If you go looking for someone who matches the physical image..what do you think the odds are that they will also be everything else you already have in your current partner? ?..but, if you feel like you are never gonna be truly happy with your current partner either because her appearance is really a deal breaker for you then you should let her go. Only you can figure out what you truly want...but it is not fair to either of you for you to hold on to her if you really aren't certain..down the road you could end up really hurting her if you can't resolve your inner confliction. I'm not saying just leave her...but do some serious soul searching and do not go looking elsewhere til you figure this out!..thread lightly..a heart in your hands is a very valuable fragile thing. Please treat hers with care
-LITW