I did all my dating in the 80s, so maybe everything is different now but I met my dates through school, work, or because they were friends of my friends or their boyfriends (double dates). I remember each date fondly in some way (sometimes it was just funny) even if I thought, boy, I will never go out with him again....So I am wondering, are the dates boring because there is nothing to say because you already know so much about them from the online dating website/messaging? So maybe take the type of college course that has a lot of guys, try to get a job at a place that has a lot of guys or volunteer at an event where there are a lot of guys? Also, I have noticed that a lot of guys like the martial arts. Does the idea of taking a karate or jiu jitsu class appeal to you? I met my husband at work. I had asked someone who worked for H to help me accomplish a worthwhile task. He had agreed but when the event started, he was a no show. I called H and complained (the person then came but was late). H helped but gave me lots of advice before the conversation ended. He told me he fell in love with my voice and already knew who I was. Later that week, he bought me a drink and said that he had told the person that was late that he was going to smooth things over with me. He asked me out during the second drink we had together that night.

You said on your previous date with the New Year's guy that there were a lot of awkward pauses and that you two felt kind of awkward around each other. Is that also the case on other dates? Some people are just more socially awkward then others when they meet new people. Maybe that is part of it?

Other things to consider are whether you have recent, representative, full body pictures of yourself online? I know from online dating myself that a LOT of people use overly flattering pictures and then their dates might feel misled.

Do you tell your dates ahead of time that you don't work full time and live at home? For some that just might be a deal-breaker no matter how great you are.

It's also just plain hard to meet a great match. I know I've been on my share of dates where I'm just not into the other person. They might be really nice; they just aren't right for me. If you are also not feeling connected to some of the guys, I wouldn't worry about it. You're not gonna click with everyone. If however you're entirely sold on each guy you meet and they are the ones who are calling it quits each time, then I would think about things you might be able to do differently. Have you thought about asking your friends if they think any of the specifics above might be true for you? Or maybe they have noticed you have some nervous quirk that might be coming out on dates? For instance, I have a friend who would start using kind of a baby voice when she got really nervous. Guys thought it was her normal speaking voice and just weren't into it. I pointed it out to her, and she stopped doing it and dating got easier.