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Originally Posted by animatronic
I'm curious, does anybody around here have a method for dealing with out of control alters? I have a particularly nasty alter who calls himself Saint. He's... vicious, rude, and honestly works entirely for a shock factor (think filthy frank...) and has gone as far as to tell my loved ones that they are (as an example) worthless [redacted] [redacted] that should go kill themselves.
Honestly it's becoming a very tired explanation when I'm fronting again and having to deal with the damage he dealt..
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I had some alters like this, but my therapy wasnt on trying to control the alters. short version we knew my alters were there for a reason, they had their own jobs, purposes, reasons for being, how and why they took control of the body and all that other stuff now called sense of agency here in america. (for more on this you can click on my link at the bottom of my post) anyway my alters doing what ever their sense of agency was, is how I survived my childhood and became the adult I am today. trying to control and change them would be like someone walking into my home and telling me what I can do and not do in my own home. just like when I would be rude or swear or what ever and I did / do it for a reason so did my alters. heck even normal non dissociative people can be rude and all.
the only line in the sand my treatment providers and I drew was that if I or my alters became a danger to myself or others (suicidal, homicidal, self injuring....) I had to be inpatient status with a mental hospital or a local hospitals mental health Unit until stabilized again.
my suggestion would be rather than trying to control your alters work with your treatment providers to discover what their sense of agency is and learn to take care of your self and your triggers that cause you to dissociate into being those alters.